Why transphobia hurts gender non-conforming cis people


Content note: This post will discuss transphobia, homophobia, misogyny, police brutality, some sources will include *phobic statements or arguments

Recent transphobic discourse has focused on claiming that trans people, by virtue of our mere existence, prop up patriarchal gender norms or that transition is a form of highly convoluted anti-gay conversion therapy by parents who are deeply homophobic but curiously accepting of the idea of having a trans child. This is obvious nonsense, it also begs the question of exactly what the effect of transphobia is on gender non-conforming people.

Gender norms are the set of social expectations placed on us by society based on our presumed gender, such as the expectation that women should be nurturing, shy and submissive while men should be strong, outgoing and dominant, the expectation that women will be exclusively sexually and romantically attracted to men (and vice versa) or the expectation in modern…

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Poem: Shamed into silence – eugenics

Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez

Shamed into silence

A form of eugenics without killing us

Shamed into silence

Then cut us and create infertility to fit your binary notions

Shamed into silence

So we do not talk about our bodies to anyone – hush, you say with your M.D. and Ph.D.!

Shamed into silence

The government, with its patriarchy, colonialism, and misogyny, did this to us – supremacy with the invention of “normal”

Shamed into silence

You said I had to be a feminine woman – intersex men not allowed in your endosexist, cissexist binary club – you do not even know you are endosex, do you?

Shamed into silence

Secretly giving a sigh of relief when we kill ourselves – because you pushed us to it

Shamed into silence

Telling our parents to abort us instead of having a hermaphrodite – you convinced them to hate us – to death

Shamed into silence


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Neuronormativity, the pathologisation of Mental health, and the normalising of suffering

Emergent Divergence

In recent years mental health has become more widely talked about, thanks to the popularisation of the “it’s okay not to be okay” trope. On the surface this is a wonderful approach to the normalisation of Mental health issues, but does it have a darker side?

There are currently over 300 “disorders” listed in the DSM 5, the diagnostic manual used by psychiatrists around the world. One could imagine that between them they account for the vast majority of human experience; a concerning thought to say the least.

What benefit does this serve us as a society?

Realistically, it only benefits those who adhere to normative standards.

We’ve been taught that mental health concerns are an illness, that we have a pathology that requires treatment. Despite this, there is no biomedical test that can definitively diagnose any of the numerous entries in the DSM. So perhaps there is something more…

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Addiction doesn’t strip us of our humanity

Emergent Divergence

Trigger Warning: This article contains discussion of addiction, death, metaphors around death, dehumanisation, and mistreatment.

What defines us as a human?

Is it rhetorical ability? Emotional experiences? Perhaps the tools we use?

I would argue that one of the defining characteristics of our humanity is our ability to to recognise humanity in others, or perhaps more specifically, our ability to deny the humanity of others. Thanks to years of colonialism, warfare, and eurocentric beliefs, we have developed a strange sort of morality. This morality is what we use to ordain or deny a person or object as human/human-adjacent.

Unfortunately, when you are an addict, human-adjacent would be a big step up in how the world sees you. For as long as we have existed, we have been ignored, spoken over, driven out of our homes, and killed. This because contemporary spins on normative morality posit that to be an addict…

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Autism “cure” culture and normative violence

Emergent Divergence

TRIGGER WARNING: This article contains detailed discussion of harmful “cures”. It also mentions ABA, MMS, Chelation, and has in depth discussion around normative society and the murder of Autistic people.

For as long as I have been an advocate, many of my fellow Autistics have spoken out against cure culture. From Applied Behavioural Analysis (ABA) to Miracle Mineral Solution (MMS), there are myriad “treatments” that claim to purge the autism from autistic people. I could speak at length about the direct harm that these quack interventions inflict, but there is a deeper level of conversation to be had.

We are engaged, at present, in a culture war. On the one hand, we have Autistic culture which teaches us to be neurologically queer in every sense of the words. Be ourselves, connect with the self and express it in a way that honors our neurocognitice style. On the other hand, is…

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ABA: Essentialism in practice

Emergent Divergence

For as long as I have been part of the online Autistic community, we have spoken out against and educated on the topic of the harms of Applied Behavioural Analysis (ABA). While I could discuss the real world trauma and attitudes that proceed and preceed ABA respectively, today I’d like to take a more philosophical approach (I know, surprising right?).

It seems to me as though the existence and practice of ABA comes down to essentialism, or in more accessible terms; it comes down to the belief that people belong to specific categories with specific traits. This essentialism than has a provincialist spin put on it where by those with a predominant neurocognitive style widely apply their experiences as the “correct” experiences.

This allows for a discourse in which the Autistic person is then subject to “behavioural intervention” for “their own good”. However, the problem with behaviourism on the whole…

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Comfort Zones or Safe Spaces?


Time to call us our bullshit:

TMI (too much information!) is code for “Why don’t you have the grace to be ashamed enough to die in silence so we can share thoughts and prayers at your funeral?”

I am old enough come from the stoic back woods west bumfuck area of the world where we sucked it up in silence and put a good face on all the bad things. There was nothing wrong, everyone kept up a good face, a stiff upper lip, and makeup hides lots of things. Especially when you are trained to not notice, like you are trained to pretend not to hear.

Now we come to the internet age, the age of the overshare, the “oh my god don’t you have any boundaries” age. The Age of TMI, too much information.

While I have said it often enough, it really is possible to have a…

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The Modern Satanist: Where Do I Belong?

Ariadne's Labyrinth

For many years when someone talked about Satanists, it was assumed that they were part of the Church of Satan. The Church of Satan was founded in 1966 by Anton Szandor LaVey and is still one of the largest Satanic organizations in existence. But as time passed, more groups have popped up, some with new progressive ideas and others that are more sinister in nature.

But as a self-identified Satanist, do we HAVE to belong to any group? Ultimately the answer to that question is: “No. Satanism is a self-defined practice that proclaims the highest power to be “Self” and to reject any power that attempts to command oneself against one’s will.” Satanism can come in many forms, though certain Satanic scholars will argue that point. Some Satanists believe in a personal Satan while other’s, arguably the majority, define Satan as a literary character that embodies Autonomy, Science, Power and…

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Abortion: The Real Victim

Bad Atheist

The race to make laws restricting a woman’s right to control her own body and make her own decisions is moving rapidly. Especially with the looming Supreme Court decision that will likely overturn Roe v Wade. Many of the state laws being proposed or have been enacted would not even allow abortions in cases of rape and incest. The reason given for not allowing that exception is, I think, illuminating. It sheds light on the problem with the whole movement to outlaw abortion.

Their argument for forcing women and girls who became pregnant through either rape or incest to give birth regardless of their wishes is a simple one. In more ways than one. Namely that just because the mother was a victim of a heinous crime that doesn’t mean we should create another victim by killing the fetus.

So the concern is all about the fetus. They pay the…

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Poem: A Gestational Father on Seahorse Day!

Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez

You were stuck

Inside of me

They had to free you, as you kicked my ribs to get out

They cut you out of me so you could breathe life

Some shamed me for it

Saying I was somehow less than all women

With their actions, or lack of actions

They are afraid to stand in solidarity

to this day

Yet there you were a beautiful and perfect newborn

At my breast, you drank my milk

I was never your mother

They are now the ones stuck

They need you to free them a new generation

They cut me out of today’s celebration

so they can believe their binary myth lies

They still shame me for it

Too ashamed to mention my name for fear they would be shamed for it too

So they, oops, and conveniently forget my existence

When just yesterday they met me with a smile and…

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